Sarah Yoo - What's My Attachment Style?

What's My Attachment Style?

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I often worry that my partner will stop loving me.

I find it easy to be affectionate with my partner.

I fear that once someone gets to know the real me, she won't like who I am.

I find that I bounce back quickly after a breakup. It's weird how I can just put someone out of my mind.

When I'm not involved in a relationship. I feel somewhat anxious and incomplete.

I find it difficult to emotionally support my partner when she is feeling down.

When my partner is away, I'm afraid that she might become interested in someone else.

I feel comfortable depending on romantic partners.

My independence is more important to me than my relationships.

I prefer not to share my innermost feelings with my partner.

When I show my partner how I feel, I'm afraid she will not feel the same about me.

I am generally satisfied with my romantic relationships.

I don't feel the need to act out much in my romantic relationships.

I think about my relationship a lot.

I find it difficult to depend on romantic partners.

I tend to get very quickly attached to a romantic partner.

I have little difficulty expressing my needs and wants to my partner.

I sometimes feel angry or annoyed with my partner without knowing why.

I am very sensitive to my partner's moods.

I believe most people are essentially honest and dependable.

I prefer casual sex with uncommitted partners to intimate sex with one person.

I'm comfortable sharing my personal thoughts and feelings with my partner.

I worry that if my partner leaves me I might never find someone else.

It makes me nervous when my partner gets too close.

During a conflict, I tend to impulsively do or say things I later regret, rather than be able to reason about things.

An argument with my partner doesn't usually cause me to question our entire relationship.

My partners often want me to be more intimate than I feel comfortable being.

I worry that I am not attractive enough.

Sometimes people see me as boring because I create little drama in relationships.

I miss my partner when we're apart, but then when we're together I feel the need to escape.

When I disagree with someone, I feel comfortable expressing my opinions.

I hate feeling that other people depend on me.

If I notice that someone I'm interested in is checking out other people, I don't let it phase me. I might feel a pang of jealousy, but it's fleeting.

If I notice that someone I'm interested in is checking out other people, I feel relieve--it means she's not looking to make things exclusive.

If I notice that someone I'm interested in is checking out other people, it makes me feel depressed.

If someone I've been dating begins to act cold and distant, I may wonder what's happened but I'll know it's probably not about me.

If someone I've been dating begins to act cold and distant, I'll probably be indifferent; I might even be relieved.

If someone I've been dating begins to act cold and distant, I'll worry that I've done something wrong.

If my partner was to break up with me, I'd try my best to show her/him what she is missing (a little jealousy can't hurt).

If someone I've been dating for several months tells me she wants to stop seeing me, I'd feel hurt at first, but I'd get over it.

Sometimes when I get what I want in a relationship, I'm not sure what I want anymore.

I won't have much of a problem staying in touch with my ex (strictly platonic)--after all, we have a lot in common.

Your Results

Interpretation of Results

Highest number reveals your primary attachment style:

A: Anxious

B: Secure

C: Avoidant

Anxious Attachment Style

You love to be very close to your partners and have the capacity for great intimacy. But you often fear that your partner does not wish to be as close as you would like. You tend to be sensitive to small fluctuations in your partner’s moods and actions and are inclined to take them personally. You experience a lot of negative emotions within the relationship and get easily upset. As result, you tend to act out and say things that you later regret. If the other person provides a lot of security and reassurance, however, you are able to shed much of your preoccupation and feel contented.

Secure Attachment Style

Being warm and loving in a relationship comes naturally to you. You take things in stride when it comes to romance, and don’t get easily upset over relationship matters. You effectively communicate your needs and feelings to your partner and are strong at reading your partner’s emotional cues and responding to them. You share your successes and problems with your mate, and are able to be there for him or her in times of need.

Avoidant Attachment Style

It is very important for you to maintain your independence and self-sufficiency. You often prefer autonomy to intimate relationships. Even though you do want to be close to others, you feel uncomfortable with too much closeness and tend to keep your partner at arm’s length. You tend to not open up to your partners and they often complain that you are emotionally distant. In relationships, you are often on high alert for any signs of control or impingement on your territory or freedoms.